Dear Unhappy Girlfriend
December 11, 2016
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Question: My boyfriend talks to other girls, what should I do?
Dear Unhappy Girlfriend,
First of all, you need to establish whether or not he is talking to them in a flirtatious manner, or just as friends. If this is the case, then he should be allowed to have friends outside of your relationship, even if you’re worried that something will happen.
Relationships are built on trust, and if you don’t trust your boyfriend enough to have girl friends, then you shouldn’t be in a relationship with him. Also, if you think that it’s fair for you to have boy friends, and you don’t allow him to have any girl friends, then you are a hypocrite.
Don’t ban him from having friends, because if you are going to have them, then what makes you think that he can’t? That would be a double standard, and further would contradict your entire question. However, if he is being flirtatious towards those girls, then you should talk to him about why he thinks that it’s okay to talk to other girls who he is not in a relationship with in such a manner.
In addition, if he continues to do so, then you should either confront him about it again or break up with him. It’s not worth it to be with a guy who doesn’t treat you right, or give you the attention that you deserve. If you knowingly let him cheat on you, then he’s going to think that it’s okay to treat a girl like property, and you are definitely not his “property”.